Since today is a special historical day for me, I decided to start a new series on building a checklist before you get married.Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Wedded Wednesday 7/28/2010
Since today is a special historical day for me, I decided to start a new series on building a checklist before you get married.Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Talk it Out Tuesday 7/27/2010
Today I wanted to take a poll and I could really use your help. I want to know the following if you could email me at ericalewisms@hotmail.com or simply leave a comment after this post.Monday, July 26, 2010
Mental Health Monday 7/26/2010
Today I decided to put a video on of deep breathing because a lot of people do not know how to do it and it is so effective. I have started using it and fall asleep much faster and feel much less stressed. I have also included a link where you can purchase the cd that I use that was created for Christians and produced by my Boss and Friend Dr. Jennifer Fee, Psychologist!Self Care Sunday 7/25/2010
Stressful Saturday 7/24/2010
Did you know that kids get stressed too. As a matter of fact, I have seen numerous children in therapy who have anxiety disorders and deal with stress heavily. I decided to put on some tips on some ideas to reduce stress in children:Family Friday 7/23/2010
Hey everyone, I wanted to share a great resource with you all today. I recently signed up on this site for FREE to make a calendar where Anthony and I could share our appointments with each other and keep commitments easily seen. I love this site and recommend it to you. You can sign up every family member with a different color and you can ask that reminders be sent to the adult's cell phones throughout the day. This keeps the calendar free from clutter and also keeps us where we are supposed to be. They also have a section where you can make a shopping list and have it sent to your cell which means no more forgetting the sheet of paper at home. There are numerous resources on this site and I highly recommend it.Thirsty Thursday 7/22/2010
We are going to be continuing on our path to true happiness today with a simple yet effective tip...Wedded Wednesday 7/21/2010
Today I want to give you an idea to make your marriage more relaxing, happy, and less strenuous. Often times in our marriages we fight really dirty. We call names, bring up the past, and speak harshly. These do irreparable damage sometimes so I think that today the best thing to show you how to do is build a "fighting rules" document for your marriage.Talk it out Tuesday 7/20/2010
Today's topic is simple. What do you think about the phrase "Happily Married?" I think personally it is sad that we have to specify that we are HAPPILY married when shouldn't marriage be overall happy? I know that it really isn't in today's culture and that many people are miserably married or even "openly married" or cheating as I call it. Mental Health Monday 7/19/2010
Today I decided to talk about something we all tend to understand, movies. There are so many movies out there that depict mental illness that I thought it might be fun here and there for me to review some of those movies and let you know what is out there to watch that might help you see these illnesses in action.Self Care Sunday 7/18/2010
Self care is a very important part of our lives and mental health. Many people do not even know the meaning of self-care or if they are doing their part. Today I decided to post a link to a self-care assessment that you can do to find out if you are doing a good job at Self-care. There are other resources on this site as well so enjoy!Stressful Saturday 7/17/2010
We all go through stress every single day. Some of us more than others due to small children, house repairs, financial concerns, traumatic events, health problems, and the list goes on. Today I am going to give you a quick response to stress that will help you sort it out in the moment.Family Friday 7/16/2010
Today I thought I would give you ten tips for dealing with step-children. I know that we all want to believe that children are always a joy and easy to deal with but when you are coming from a place of hurt and brokenness and so are the children, there is a lot that can go into just basic coping and getting along. Here are ten important tips to remember when blending families:Thursday, July 15, 2010
Thirsty Thursday 7/15/2010
We have been talking about how to be truly happy over the last few weeks. Today my tip for being truly happy is ....Wedded Wednesday 7/14/2010
Last week I talked about signs that your marriage may be in trouble. It is time for new diagnostic. How about thinking about whether your marriage is healthy and happy. Here is a checklist of things you find in a happy/healthy marriage.Talk it Out Tuesday 7/13/2010
So the other day I was watching a children's movie with a few of my favorite kids and my husband and realized that in the first 10 minutes of the film, one of the characters was attempting suicide. I became very bothered by this scene and was troubled not just because that is a VERY adult issue but because I had seen this film before and did not notice that. It was when I was viewing it with children that it became apparent to me what was involved in the film. Mental Health Monday 7/12/2010
I often hear people in normal day to day conversations say things like "I am so depressed" when they don't have the pastry at Starbucks that you really wanted. I also hear things like "That is depressing" when you hear that there is a quiz in your next class. These things are completely normal to hear in your life but they irk me a bit because depression is such a serious issue for so many.Go here for the self assessment.
Self Care Sunday 7/11/2010
A great way to do self care and really be an overall healthy person is to find a hobby/interest that you enjoy and invest time in that hobby. For me, it is scrapbooking and for my husband it is playing his guitar. These things help calm us, center us, and help us feel a sense of accomplishment.Stressful Saturday 7/10/2010
Today we are going to talk about a really bad affect that stress has on our bodies. It can cause us to gain weight. As we all know, carrying excess weight is hard on our bodies in so many ways. There are a few ways that this can happen. Here is a quick check list to see if maybe some of those extra pounds are due to not handling stress properly.Friday, July 9, 2010
Family Friday 7/9/2010
We are continuing our discussion on step-families this week. Upon researching the topic of step-families, I came across some information that interested me. I found that there are 4 stages of step-families and I thought I would give you the information I found and perhaps it will add a touch of normality to your life.- Grief
- Fear
- Jealousy
- Guilt
Thirsty Thursday 7/8/2010
As we started with last week, we will be continuing our talk on ways to be truly happy. Today's way is ....- I want you to close your eyes and begin to think of the word peaceful. Name the first place that comes to your mind.
- What does it look like there?
- Who is there?
- Are you doing anything? (reading, singing, napping, praising God, playing guitar?)
- Where is this place around you?
Wedded Wednesday 7/7/2010
Today I decided to do a bit of a rough diagnostic for you so that you can gauge if you're marriage may be in trouble. I should note that only you and your spouse know if your marriage is in trouble but the signs I am going to put on are entirely valid for things to do a quick marriage check up. It has been in my experience both as a married person and a therapist to know that these signs are valid for documenting some problems within a marriage relationship (or any romantic relationship)Tuesday, July 6, 2010
Motivational quotes that have TRUTH to them

I got an email today with some motivational quotes and thought they deserved to be shared. I have added my own thoughts on these quotes and hope that you can take something in from each of them today and apply it to good mental health.
Monday, July 5, 2010
Talk It Out Tuesday 7/6/2010

Often times when we go to job interviews we get asked this question that is very hard to answer. It is hard to answer because if we answer it truthfully, we may not get offered the job. However, if we lie about it, most likely if they hire us they will soon find out we were dishonest. The question is "What is your biggest weakness?"
Sunday, July 4, 2010
Mental Health Monday 7/5/2010
A pervasive pattern of preoccupation with orderliness, perfectionism, and mental and interpersonal control, at the expense of flexibility, openness, and efficiency, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by four (or more) of the following:
1) is preoccupied with details, rules, lists, order, organization, or schedules to the extent that the major point of the activity is lost.
2) shows perfectionism that interferes with task completion (e.g., is unable to complete a project because his or her own overly strict standards are not met)
3) is excessively devoted to work and productivity to the exclusion of leisure activities and friendships (not accounted for by obvious economic necessity)
4) is overconscientious, scrupulous, and inflexible about matters of morality, ethics, or values (not accounted for by cultural or religious identification)
5) is unable to discard worn-out or worthless objects even when they have no sentimental value
6) is reluctant to delegate tasks or to work with others unless they submit to exactly his or her way of doing things
7) adopts a miserly spending style toward both self and others; money is viewed as something to be hoarded for future catastrophes
8) shows rigidity and stubbornness
People often confuse the two of these and as you can see...they are VERY different!
Here is a video to explain the differences more thoroughly to supplement the reading.
Friday, July 2, 2010
Self Care Sunday 7/4/2010
The most basic definition of self care is behaviors that counter the effects of emotional and physical stress. We absolutely can not escape emotional and physical stress as long as we live in the real world so it is imperative that we all learn how to do basic self care and even advanced self care. We will start with the most basic of all self care.Stressful Saturday 7/3/2010
Which one of us hasn't felt financial stress at one time or another? I am sure most of us are experiencing it now. The economy is such that many people are losing homes, jobs, and having their businesses go under. It is no wonder that stress is at an all time high. I thought I would start our stressful Saturdays by talking about how financial stress affects you and what you can do.Family Friday 6/2/2010
Did you know that the average marriage in America lasts only 7 years and 75% of people remarry. That means if there are children in these families, these children end up in a step family. I thought I would take a few Family Fridays to discuss Step families and some of the things that people do not consider when joining families and some of the myths that keep families stuck and unable to move forward in the quest to be a family.Thursday, July 1, 2010
Thirsty Thursday 7/1/2010
I looked up the definition of "thirsty" and it came up saying "parched or craving something." I thought that was a great way to start our Thirsty Thursdays. A lot of us go through life thirsting for something but we aren't sure what it is. My guess is that we are all craving happiness. Happiness is defined as "a state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to immense joy. Most of us haven't even found contentment much less immense joy. 
